Kevin Cala-or Asay was taken from this earth entirely too young. At only 52 years old, he had so much yet to offer, and the world is a poorer place without him. On November 22, 2023, Kevin passed away peacefully at his home in Pocatello, Idaho, after only recently finding out he was ill.
Kevin was born on October 18, 1971, in Manila, The Philippines, to Thomas Herbert Asay and Elnie Heradura Cala-or. As a Navy brat, he moved around a lot as a child and had a tough upbringing. He lost his mother to breast cancer when he was just 14 years old, and his father left that same year. Kevin was fortunate to have never ended up in foster care because he had so many loving aunts and uncles who were able and willing to take both he and his younger brother in. In 1988 his aunt, Julie Asay, was the last to take him in before he became an adult, which is how he came to live in Idaho. Julie was a truly remarkable woman. She had never been married before and had never had children of her own, but she willingly took in 2 very troubled and broken teenagers that she didn’t know and had spent almost no time with. A couple of years later, she married an amazing man named Lynn Collings, and together they were like parents to Kevin and his little brother, and later became Grammy and Papa to their children.
Growing up with his father in the Navy, Kevin had the opportunity to live in many different places throughout the world and had experiences that gave him a unique perspective on life. Kevin lived his life his own way, regardless of what others thought. He was always full of life and well-liked by those who were lucky enough to get to know him. Kevin was not pretentious; material things didn’t matter to him. Relationships were what he valued, and not always having a lot of family around, he created a sort of family with his friends. Later in life, Kevin developed a deep love for his Savior, Jesus Christ, whom he leaned on for strength to get him through his illness.
Kevin had diverse interests in his life. He enjoyed the outdoors and especially loved to fish, a skill he was particularly good at. There were times that he would catch fish after fish, when no one else was catching anything, much to the frustration of his brother when they fished together. Kevin loved photography, and was especially good at it, winning multiple awards for his work. He also loved to collect coins, current and antique, American and foreign, and had an Instagram page entirely dedicated to it.
Kevin leaves behind 2 beloved adult children, Tyson and Lizzie, who were his world. Over the years, he went above and beyond what most parents would do for their children and gladly sacrificed so much for them.
Kevin is also survived by his younger brother, Ken (Desi Jenks-Asay) Asay, two nieces, Ari Jenks and Devyn Asay, one nephew, Malakai Asay, and his Uncle Lynn (Louise) Collings who was like a father to him. Kevin is also survived by many aunts and uncles in both the United States and The Philippines.
He was preceded in death by his cherished mother, Elnie, his much-loved Aunt Julie, and all four of his grandparents.
At Kevin’s request, there will not be a memorial service. He wished to be cremated and to have his ashes spread at the dock he enjoyed fishing at with his children, when they were young.
He is loved and he will be missed.
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